First let me say I am a dad my self - many think I am female for some reason - perhaps I should make it clearer.

I actually agree with you on most of what you say - I think it also important to accept that every situation is different and no-one should be in a situation to judge others.

There are the kids to think of however and sometimes they are the forgotten - the innocent. I think in most situations both parents are at fault. There is no simple situation. At least you have been there and tried to make it work.

My article is directed more towards those who walk away without looking back, not even trying to make things work - from the child's perspective, one day their parents are with them - the next day one is gone never to be seen or heard of again - including any type of child support.

You have made your decision based on what you feel is the best or only track - your decision - your life - more power to you.

les