Children, particularly toddlers and babies, and a sex life just don't go together. Sometimes it is a miracle having the time and energy to create number two let alone number three four.

There are many parents that don’t want to talk about this subject, however I can assure you that many have experienced the problem. While you may feel guilty saying “Not tonight dear I am too tired” it doesn’t change a thing - you are still tired.

So how do we resolve this issue? It isn't easy but it can be done - with a little help.

Sleep: sleep is part of the problem, or lack of it. Opportunity is the solution. Takes naps when ever you can and don't forget to share, mother needs naps, but so to does father.

A Little Help From Your Friends: friends and relatives can be a blessing so use them. Let them baby sit while you grab an afternoon nap. Once you start to catch up on your sleep, use them to babysit while you grab back some of that old spark - start dating again - with each other of course. Movies, dinner or just an afternoon stroll hand in hand can work wonders.

Opportunity: do I need to spell it out. You are both rested, the kids are being babysat, ah what the heck - go for it.

Can it be that simple. Of course it can. It all starts with communication and from there, anything is possible.