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How do you discourage your young son from playing with his penis?

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How do you discourage your young son from playing with his penis?

You don't! From the time a baby can explore his body until well into old age, the hand of a male will naturally gravitate to that area. The reasons are many but the bottom line is, you will never stop the habit.

I see two problems in the question. The first is, why do you want to stop your son? What he is doing is perfectly natural. Boys are not alone in this practice, girls also explore their own bodies. The results of course are not nearly so obvious - girls don't create a tent.

The second problem I see in a question like this is the outcome, if you are successful. If you constantly draw attention to the action, the child will become self conscious. This can have long lasting effects including their ability to maintain a successful relationship later in life.

For a young child, as they explore their body they learn that some things hurt - like if they stick their finger in their eye. They also learn that some things feel good - like playing with themselves. If you teach them that this is bad, they may take this through to adulthood - feeling good is bad. It is during these early years they learn that touching can cause an erection. However, as they are toilet trained, they also learn that not all touching leads to an erection. They start to learn control.

Males guard their tackle. You can see this more so in nature where animals have been known to attack that region first. Some animals have a tail that can be used to protect their privates. For humans, the only protection is the hand.

As a parent our role is to teach our children what is appropriate. What you can and cannot do in public, in the home and amongst other people. If this is done with a little sensitivity you will find that the child's fascination with that area will diminish and that other aspects of life will take over - until that is, they start to take notice of girls, then it starts again.



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I am sure it is in our genes - or jeans - I am also sure this is where the saying = boys and their toys - started
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Seeing your headline, I was curious as to what your answer would be...
As it turns out, I'm relieved that you agree with me.
My youngest is my first baby boy, and I'm just amazed at how young they are when they start! It has to be genetic...

Hey, I just read someone's

Hey, I just read someone's post today about this topic and asking for opinions. I think your post is just timely. I have to let her know now.
By the way, you needed me to e-mail you but I don't have your e-mail address. Mine is toddlerhumor@gmail.com.

I agree!

I agree with exactly what you said. We have 3 boys - ages 10, 12 and 13. We have told them all that there is a time and a place that they can touch themselves. Their penis belongs to them and they can play with it / touch it, if they want to. It's just where they do it. It is not allowed in public, or in front of their grandmothers. Moms are different because moms understand these things. Talk openly and honestly with your children and they will never be worried about talking to you later on in life.

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